Many people also try to find excuses in their life, blaming other people for the debacle in their life. Hence they miss the out on the fundamental principle in life. That is ‘You must make life yours if you want to be successful in life’. In simpler terms, taking responsibility in your life if you want to achieve something in life.
We are listing some ways which can help you get some control back in life –
1. Stop blaming people
Whenever you face any setback in life whether it’s your love life, family, economy or anything else. Stop blaming other people, because it keeps you in the victim mode and doesn’t allow you to make any changes in life.
When you stop blaming, you blame yourself which forces your brain to take some steps and take some responsibility in your life.
2. Stop complaining
Complaining about every other event in life against activates the blame game in your brain and you act like the victim. Which shows you lack focus and give up hope even at the slightest hurdle. If you stop complaining about the situation, you would be able to bring some notable changes in your life.
3. Decline to take anything individually
This is an important one, most of the time people assume things to be about them even if they are not. Once they do that, they try to ratify it. Which brings no sense to their life.
People need to understand they can control only a few things and taking everything personally or arguing about it only brings in more chaos in life and divert yourself from the goal. Hence, you should constantly ask yourself ‘Does that thing really bother me? If so, how?’ If you don’t get a straight answer even once, drop the cause and take responsibility and withdraw yourself from the disagreement.
4. Make yourself happy
Many of us often grave for happiness but never realize it is a person inside your body responsible for happiness. If you are feeling sad, go out and do something which you love, and it will bring happiness to you.
If you are able to do anything of this sort will liberate you. Establishing the fact that happiness is a choice which only you can make. This will tick a vital section of taking responsibility in life, and that is being happy and sad.
5. Live the present
Whatever is happening in your life. Nothing from the past can redeem them. Now convince yourself about this and question your thought every time they oppose the notion. By doing so, you are dedicating yourself in the present moment and living it without any dark clouds.
6. Clear your vision
Whatever happens in your life, happens due to a decision you made. You can change your life by making a choice. Take a decision according to your vision in life, eg, your relationship, your business, your health, etc. Become intentional in making these choices deliberately toward manifesting your vision.
7. Feel calm and confident
If nothing works carry yourself around with calmness and confidence. Bring back the swagger in your attitude, and you would act according to it. Being confident will make you the hero in the blame game, the one who take steps whenever something wrong happens in their life.
It may be hard to be calm and confident at first but try to pretend early on and once you mastered them. You will forget you were pretending and you would eventually take responsibility for your life.
These are only a few ways which you take back the control in your life. You can also listen to people carefully, take their advice and incorporate them with any of our ideas and be responsible in life.